Monday, 27 May 2019

The Difference Between Being Rich And Being Wealthy

The Difference Between Being Rich And Being Wealthy


It seems that in the public’s eyes, all doctors are rich and wealthy. But is there a difference between the two?

There actually is but most of us don't know what that difference is.

All Doctors Are Rich, Right?

Typically after graduating, new docs think they'll become rich because of their high income potential. In today's society, those that earn six figures or more are typically considered rich. As a doctor, your income potential is much higher than the average Joe. The U.S. median annual household income averages $60,000 and the average physician’s salary is $300,000. How much of your salary you save and invest will dictate how wealthy you ultimately become.

Most people think doctors are rich because they typically drive fancy cars, wear expensive clothes, golf/socialize at country clubs, live in fancy neighborhoods, and/or send their kids to private schools. I know many white collar professionals (and you probably do too), that look rich but behind closed doors, are cash-poor with little assets to show for it.

What Do Wealthy People Look Like?

Many doctors never accumulate "real" wealth as they start their careers later in life accumulating large amounts of student loan debt. One of the best books that portrays what true wealth looks like is “The Millionaire Next Door.” The authors, Drs. Stanley and Danko, determined whether someone was wealthy or not was based one number: net worth.

Their wealth formula: Net worth = Assets - Liabilities

Another book that gives guidelines to becoming wealthy is JL Collins's book, “The Simple Path to Wealth.”

He recommends the following: Spend less than you earn, invest the surplus, avoid debt. Do simply this and you'll wind up rich and NOT just in money. Avoid fiscally irresponsible people; never marry one or give them access to your money. Money can buy many things, but nothing more valuable than your freedom. Save a portion of every dollar you earn. Try saving and investing 50 percent of your income. With no debt, this is perfectly doable. When you can live on four percent of your investments per year, you are financially independent.

Being Rich Or Being Wealthy

One of the main differences between a rich person and a wealthy person is that a wealthy one has sustainable wealth that can last for years through investments that typically produce multiple income streams.

Another difference between the two is knowledge.

Wealthy people know how to make money whereas rich people only have money. Many doctors fall into the “rich” category. They make a lot of money but when they stop working, they also stop making money.

Once you know how to make money, you can build sustainable wealth. The money never stops coming in, even if you have a downturn in your practice or investments. You have the smarts to get it flowing again. Ultimately, being wealthy means that you're financially free — no matter how much money you make. It’s not how much money you make that matters, but how long that money works for you.

For me, I could care less what people think of me based on where I live or what I drive. Designer clothes and expensive cars aren’t important to me. I love practicing “stealth wealth.” For those with kids, we know how fast they grow up. Parents have a small window of opportunity to spend time with them until they're gone for good. I'm happiest spending time and creating lasting experiences with them rather than buying stuff I don't need. For me, “wealth is measured in time, not dollars.”

What is Wealth?

You can do a quick Google search and find many examples of wealthy people who obtained it through knowledge and valued it more than money.

My favorite one can be found in the Book of Proverbs, with King Solomon. You think Jeff Bezos is wealthy? King Solomon was extraordinarily wealthy and wise. When he first became king, he was granted anything he wanted and he chose wisdom over riches. In the Book of Proverbs, Solomon lists wisdom and knowledge as the two most important gifts to ask of God. Want to know how to acquire wealth? The same way Solomon created his: Through wisdom and knowledge.

Dr.  Anzalone is a Periodontist in Northeast Louisiana. He is a family man, author and blogger at www.DebtFreeDr.com. His mission is to help doctors get out of debt and build mountains of wealth.

Previously published on The Debt Free Dr.

Sunday, 17 March 2019

The Letter Your Teenager Can't Write You

Copied from:- Gretchen L. Schmelzer, PhD, original post June 23, 2015

Dear Parent:


This is the letter that I wish I could write. 


This fight we are in right now. I need it. I need this fight. I can’t tell you this because I don’t have the language for it and it wouldn’t make sense anyway. But I need this fight. Badly. I need to hate you right now and I need you to survive it. I need you to survive my hating you and you hating me. I need this fight even though I hate it too. It doesn’t matter what this fight is even about: curfew, homework, laundry, my messy room, going out, staying in, leaving, not leaving, boyfriend, girlfriend, no friends, bad friends. It doesn’t matter. I need to fight you on it and I need you to fight me back.


I desperately need you to hold the other end of the rope. To hang on tightly while I thrash on the other end—while I find the handholds and footholds in this new world I feel like I am in. I used to know who I was, who you were, who we were. But right now I don’t. Right now I am looking for my edges and I can sometimes only find them when I am pulling on you. When I push everything I used to know to its edge. Then I feel like I exist and for a minute I can breathe. I know you long for the sweeter kid that I was. I know this because I long for that kid too, and some of that longing is what is so painful for me right now.


I need this fight and I need to see that no matter how bad or big my feelings are—they won’t destroy you or me. I need you to love me even at my worst, even when it looks like I don’t love you. I need you to love yourself and me for the both of us right now. I know it sucks to be disliked and labeled the bad guy. I feel the same way on the inside, but I need you to tolerate it and get other grownups to help you. Because I can’t right now. If you want to get all of your grown up friends together and have a ‘surviving-your-teenager-support-group-rage-fest’ that’s fine with me. Or talk about me behind my back--I don’t care. Just don’t give up on me. Don’t give up on this fight. I need it.


This is the fight that will teach me that my shadow is not bigger than my light. This is the fight that will teach me that bad feelings don’t mean the end of a relationship. This is the fight that will teach me how to listen to myself, even when it might disappoint others. 


And this particular fight will end. Like any storm, it will blow over. And I will forget and you will forget. And then it will come back. And I will need you to hang on to the rope again. I will need this over and over for years.


I know there is nothing inherently satisfying in this job for you. I know I will likely never thank you for it or even acknowledge your side of it. In fact I will probably criticize you for all this hard work. It will seem like nothing you do will be enough. And yet, I am relying entirely on your ability to stay in this fight. No matter how much I argue. No matter how much I sulk. No matter how silent I get.


Please hang on to the other end of the rope. And know that you are doing the most important job that anyone could possibly be doing for me right now.


Love, Your Teenager

Wednesday, 6 March 2019

स्त्री तुम पुरुष न हो पाओगी....

स्त्री तुम पुरुष न हो पाओगी....
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स्त्री तुम पुरुष  ना बन पाओगी.....
वो कठोर दिल कहाँ से लाओगी....

ज्ञान की तलाश क्या सिर्फ बुद्ध को थी?
क्या तुम नहीं पाना चाहती वो ज्ञान?

किन्तु जा पाओगी,अपने पति परमेश्वर
और नवजात शिशु को छोड़कर....

तुम तो उनपर जान लुटाओगी....
उनके लिये अपने भविष्य को
दाँव पर लगाओगी...उनकी होंठो के
एक मुस्कुराहट के लिए अपनी सारी खुशियो की बलि चढ़ाओगी....

स्त्री तुम पुरुष न हो पाओगी....
वो कठोर दिल कहाँ से लाओगी....

क्या राम बन पाओगी????
क्या कर पाओगी अपने पति का परित्याग,
उस गलती के लिए जो उसने की ही नहीं????

ले पाओगी उसकी अग्निपरीक्षा
उसके नाज़ायज़ सबंधो के लिए भी????

क्षमा कर दोगी उसकी गलतियों के लिए,
हज़ार गम पीकर भी मुस्काओगी....

स्त्री तुम पुरुष न हो पाओगी....वो कठोर दिल कहाँ से लाओगी......

क्या कृष्ण बन पाओगी????
जोड़ पाओगी अपना नाम किसी परपुरुष के साथ????

जैसे कृष्ण संग राधा....अगर तुम्हारा नाम जुड़ा....तो तुम चरित्रहीन कहलाओगी....
तुम मुस्कुराकर बात भी कर लोगी,
तो भी कलंकिनी कुलटा कहलाओगी....

स्त्री तुम पुरुष न हो पाओगी....
वो कठोर दिल कहाँ से लाओगी.......

क्या युधिष्ठिर बन पाओगी????
जुए में पति को हार जाओगी?????
तुम तो उसके सम्मान की खातिर,
दुर्गा चंडी हो जाओगी...खुद को कुर्बान कर जाओगी......मौत भी आये तो ,
उसके समक्ष अभय खड़ी हो जाओगी

स्त्री तुम पुरुष न हो पाओगी....
वो कठोर दिल कहाँ से लाओगी.......

रहने दो तुम ये सब...क्योंकि...

तुम नाजुक हो,
तुम सरल हो,
तुम सहज हो,
तुम निश्चल हो,
तुम निर्मल हो,
तुम कोमल हो,
तुम जीवन हो,
तुम प्रेम ही प्रेम हो,

ईश्वर की अद्भुत सुंदरतम,
कृति हो तुम....
"स्त्री हो तुम"

Monday, 21 January 2019

Happy Anniversary Sneh.. 2019

You’re the first thing I think of in the morning,
and the last before I go to sleep,
I’m so lucky to have such a great wife,
I’m so happy that you came into my life,
Everyday I think how lucky I am, lucky to be with you,
We’ve had so many great times together, ever since I met you,
Each year I spend with you,
Is another one that I’ll hold dear,
As long as we’re together,
There’s nothing we need to fear,
Because with you it’s just happiness,
A smile and a laugh,
We can get through any barrier,
For our love, nothing is too far.
Each day I love you more and more,
And that will continue on no doubt,
Twenty years ago I made the best choice I’ve ever made,
And twenty years on my love still won’t fade,
Wish you a very happy wedding anniversary dear Sneh.!
And wish that the love between us keep on growing even better and ever larger than it grew in the past years..
Love you Sneh from the bottom of my heart...
Yours only....
Praveen. ❤️

Monday, 31 December 2018

नव वर्ष की शुभकामनाएं

सुप्रभात.! 🙏
ईस्वी नव वर्ष 2019 आपके लिए मंगलमय हो।
रिश्तों में स्नेह एवं सौहार्द प्रतिदिन बढ़े, रिश्तों की मर्यादा बनी रहे और हम एक दूसरे की भावनाओं व अपेक्षाओं का सम्मान कर सकें।
एक दूसरे की बड़ी से बड़ी गलतियों को हम आपसी प्रेम के सामने तुच्छ मानकर क्षमा कर सकें।
हम प्रेम के बंधनों में बंधे रहकर भी एक दूसरे की निजी स्वतंत्रता का सम्मान कर सकें और खुलकर उन्मुक्त जीवन जिएं, इन्हीं शुभकामनाओं के साथ:-
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डॉ. बी. पी. शर्मा - श्रीमती संतोष शर्मा,
डॉ. प्रवीण शर्मा - डॉ. स्नेहलता शर्मा,
प्रनेह शर्मा - प्रनित शर्मा
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न भारतीयो नव संवत्सरोsयं
     तथापि सर्वस्य शिवप्रद: स्यात्।
यतो धरित्री निखिलैव माता
     तत: कुटुम्बायितमेव विश्वम्।।

यद्यपि यह नव वर्ष भारतीय नही है, तथापि सबके लिये कल्याणप्रद हो; क्योंकि सम्पूर्ण धरती सबकी माता ही है !!!!!

आप सभी को वर्ष 2019में पदार्पण की अग्रिम मंगलकामनायें !! यह वर्ष आपके लिये आनन्द, आरोग्य, उत्साह, ऐश्वर्यप्रदायक हो !!

Wednesday, 28 November 2018

Just ponder upon *LIFE*

Just ponder upon ,
*LIFE*
1. A guy met one of his classmates several years after school and he could not believe his eyes; his friend was driving one of the latest stylish Mercedes Benz cars. He returned home feeling awful and very disappointed with himself. He thought he was a failure. What he did not know was that his friend was a driver and had been sent on a mission with his boss's car!

2. Rosemary always harassed her husband for not being romantic. She accused him of not coming down to open the car door for her as her friend Jane's husband did when he dropped her off at work. What Rosemary did not know was that Jane's husband's car had a broken door that could only be opened from the outside!

3. Sampson's wife went to visit one of her long-time friends and was very disturbed to see her friend's three adorable children having fun. Her problem was that she had only one child and had struggled to conceive for the last five years. What she did not know was that one of those children who was her friend's biological child had sickle cell disease and had only one year to live; the other two are adopted!

4. Life does not have a universal measuring tool; so create your own and use it. Watching people and comparing yourself to them will not make you better but bitter. If you know the kind of load that the chameleon carries, you would not ask why he takes those careful strides. So, enjoy what you have and be grateful to God for that.  Send to everyone on your list to learn from the mistakes of others!

 All that glitters is not gold, live and be happy with what you have, everyone goes through one thing or the other,
Be blessed.

Share if you agree.

WHAT A BEAUTIFUL LESSON!

*Why me?*

My equals are getting married
My equals have children
My equals have a good job
My equals succeed
My equals live by the sea side
My equals are buying luxury cars
My equals are high dignitaries in society
My equals build their homes
My equals are this ... !!!
My equals are that ... !!!

Yes, it's true ! But it's a shame that you literally forget ...... your equals who are already buried!
Your equals who are in a coma!
Your equals who are HIV-positive!
Your equals who are dialyzed!
Your equals who are in a psychiatric center!
Your equals who sleep in the street!
Your equals who are orphans!
Your equals who are unemployed!
Your equals who are hungry!
Your equals who are blind, deaf, dumbs!
Your equals with disabilities!
Your equals who envy you and who are ready to make all kinds of prayers to have a situation similar to yours ...!

You may not be where you want to be! But you are obviously happier than many others !!!!!!!!!

So give thanks to God for all He does in your life!

Be yourself ! And never forget that when you look for sandals, there are those who do not even have feet !!!

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Wednesday, 14 November 2018

50 Financial Mistakes and Illusions

*50 Financial Mistakes and Illusions* Hope we wise up from 2018......cause it's never late to start.

1. Just can’t manage to fit our Expenses within our Income. And, even when the income increases, the expenses invariably rise much faster.

2. Generosity is in our blood. We happily pay 30-50% p.a. as interest charges to the Credit Card companies.

3. We respect our culture and old customs. We keep our money in the OUTDATED Bank Fixed Deposits.

4. Another example of respect for our tradition… creating a huge pile of (useless) gold jewellery.

5. Yet another example of holding our customs in high esteem… feeling proud if we can leave behind a "20-25 year old dilapidated property" for our children as a legacy [and not a "20-25 year old equity mutual fund portfolio"].

6. Spent more than half a lakh of rupees on a top-end smartphone — just to show off (even though we will not use even one tenth of its smart features).

7. Replaced the same top-end smartphone in just 6 months? Oops... wasn’t it smart even after paying all that money? (Psst... the new model is no different from the previous one, except for some minor tweaks).

8. Haven’t read the blog post ‘My name is Insurance and I am not an investment’.

9. More than 50-60% of the monthly take-home pay is gobbled up and devoured by various loan EMIs.

10. Hotel and restaurant owners love you. You are found at these places, far more than even their most regular staff members.

11. For you (financial) PLAN is a four-letter insulting and derogatory word.

12. Believing that “budget” is only the Finance Minister’s job, not ours.

13. Believing that “managing inflation” is RBI’s problem, not ours.

14. Financial lethargy... not paying the bills by the due date (often resulting in late fees and penal interest).

15. Financial shortsightedness... thinking only of today or tomorrow; and not the next year or next decade.

16. Still waiting for the so-called BEST DAY to invest in equity mutual funds.

17. Never seen our Credit Report, even though it is now available free of cost... forget about working to improve the Credit Score.

18. The Emergency Fund account shows a Zero Balance.

19. 99% focus on earning money. Mere 1% attention on managing the same.

20. Never heard of (or not knowing the meaning of) "delayed gratification".

wasteful-money-habits
You may be blowing away your money due to carelessness and stupidity.

21. Repeatedly falling below the minimum average monthly balance in one's Savings Account.

22. Making our neighbours jealous with our extravagant lifestyle is our life's primary goal.

23. Replace is our motto. We don’t believe in Repair and Reuse.

24. Blindly and needlessly chasing Maximum Returns from our investments.

25. You ask "what does this investment or financial product offer" instead of "how is this investment or financial product beneficial for me."

26. Investing in the world’s biggest con job — a scheme that has the word “child” in it.

27. Paying Rs.150-200 for a cup of coffee, when the same stuff is available at 1/4th the price.

28. You suffer from ‘investment paralysis’ due to Fear of Loss.

29. Not having a ‘professional’ financial mentor as your friend, philosopher and guide.

30. Blissfully unaware that Gym is an expensive fad. Running, walking, yoga are free and superior alternatives to remain as fit.

31. IRR, YTM, CAGR are bouncers that simply go over your head.

32. You think you can beat Roger Federer.

33. SIP, STP and SWP is all mumbo jumbo for you.

34. Hear the word RISK and your legs go jelly with anxiety.

35. Hear the word TAX and again your legs go jelly with anxiety.

36. Spending Rs.250 on a pizza every week? No issues at all. Buying a Rs.250 book on personal finance even once a year? No, that’s a waste of money.

37. In your opinion Stock Market is a Casino and buying equity shares is gambling.

38. If you think that ups and downs are good only at roller coaster rides; and not at the stock markets.

39. The word Pension is music to your ears.

40. Our portfolio is a carbon copy of Rakesh Jhunjhunwala.

41. The biggest gamble we play with our finances — no mediclaim policy.

42. THICK forms and FINE prints scare you.

43. Not yet realized that SUVs burn more fuel, burn more money, burn more environment (thus creating a hell for our children).

44. Not yet realized that Extended Warranties are almost always a waste of money.

45. You are more brand-conscious than price-conscious.

46. Pay for 400+ cable channels. Watch at most 10-12 of them (many of which are anyway free).

47. BUY TWO GET ONE FREE. One of the best ways to make money... for the mall owners.

48. We shamelessly (and foolishly) seek free financial advice and tips on hot stocks.

49. Buying lavish and luxurious Dream Homes, way bigger than our budgets (that often end up as bad dreams).

50. Our plate is often filled with pizzas, burgers, samosas, chips, colas and such other junk food.

51. We forget that “Trust” is an extremely rare commodity in the financial world.

Forward to  your friends..  very true for all of us....